The Heart of Your Relationship - Composite Sun in the 6th and 12th house

The last time I decided to give you a trick of the trade I use in my Relationship Reviews, I talked about how the Sun in the composite chart can give you insight into the heart of your relationship, and I used the 1st and 7th houses as examples. I’ve decided to expand this into a series, so let’s jump in!

For this post, let’s focus on the 6th and the 12th houses. Some astrologers call this the serve/suffer axis. The 6th house deals with service and the 12th deals with otherworldly matters.

Composite Sun in the 6th House

For relationships that have the Sun in the 6th, the real heart of the relationship is about being of service to each other. In ways large and small, you go out of your way to improve each other’s lives and be the person that your love can turn to.

In these relationships, you’re often very involved in each other’s daily lives. A trip to the grocery store is almost always a shared activity. And the few times it’s not, you’re definitely going to come home with a few extra snacks that they didn’t ask for. That’s because a 6th house relationship means you don’t have to ask. Your partner will simply notice and provide, and you’ll do the same.

These relationships also often involve a degree of mutual healing. As you get to know each other, you’re compelled to lay bare your trauma. And when you do, their love will wash over you as they vow to ensure you’ll never hurt like that again.

But the 6th house can come with its issues. These relationships can be buffeted by forces outside their control, and those forces can sometimes wrench the relationship apart. In order to prevent this, it’s important to draw a little inspiration from the opposite house, which is the 12th. If you can transcend the bullshit and build a little bubble that is all your own, you can ride the waves of the outside world and let the healing go on and on.

Composite Sun in the 12th House

Relationships with the Sun in the 12th are less grounded in the physical world and instead tend to exist in a reality of their own. These relationships often start with some physical distance between the people in it, often showing up in online relationships, clandestine affairs, as well as the classic prison relationship. It can also manifest ad the crush who doesn’t know you exist or simply two people who don’t want to ruin the friendship and so won’t speak their true feelings.

It can be frustrating and hard to bring the relationship into existence. But when you do, there are serious benefits. The relationship can become its own ecosystem, a respite from the outside world. You create a little time bubble, feeling like the entire world stops when you’re together. You can sit down for a quick visit and end up talking for 12th hours, or you can be together for an hour and have it feel like a lifetime. 

There’s often an element of fate involved in these relationships, feeling like you were destined to meet. And there’s often a dreaminess, causing you to fantasize about each other endlessly. But sometimes you can feel like star-crossed lovers, lamenting the circumstances that make it hard to ground your relationship.  In these cases, it’s important to draw a little inspiration from the 6th house. Try hard to imagine what the actual, day to day reality would be like. Laundry, dirty socks, trips to the DMV. Think about introducing them to your family and coworkers. Think about the logistics of everyday life. Ground it in reality. And if it still feels amazing, then you know you’ve got something worth holding on to. If not, you at least get to enjoy a beautiful dream.

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There’s no right or wrong way to structure a relationship. The right way is the own that works for the people in it. And if you even find yourself drifting too far in one direction, look to the opposite house to correct your course!

What house is your composite Sun in? What’s it like?

If you want info on your specific relationship, consult with me!